A thousand days

Today is the 1000th day of Tom and my relationship. It hasn’t all been easy, and we’ve both given up a lot, but it has been worth it. (so cliche) Here are some photos from our time together through our long distance.

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First ever picture taken together on a camping trip in Michigan

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We have spent a majority of our time across the world from each other, but we’ve been lucky and patient enough to get to go on a handful of cool adventures. If you are in a long distance relationship, communication and trust are so important. Remember the positives; keeping your independence, getting to travel to see each other and the whole being in love thing. I have saved up and get to go back to England in April. Any suggestions for places we should go together next?

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Je t’aime, Paris

This guy met me as I landed in London and was like, “We’re not going to Camden Market because were going to Paris instead.” This is our story of how we saw ALL the things in Paris, in two days. Side note: He told me not to “over-pack”, and I guess I don’t know what that means, because I still brought way too much. Let me just tell you, those were heavy bags and everyone stared. Helpful hint: If your boyfriend tells you not to pack too much, pack too much anyway because even though you will be embarrassed and tired carrying around 2 giant backpacks, you will look so cute when you are standing underneath the Eiffel Tower.

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We took the Eurostar to Gare du Nord and then walked to our luxurious hotel room upon arrival, Liberty Hotel Paris. When I say luxurious, I mean the cheapest room available in France.  But it had a view of the Parisian roofs which I had always imagined in my fancy french dreams and it was all we needed.

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One of our first stops the morning of September 24, 2013, in all of my jet-lag glory was Notre Dame. We like to wear adventure (steampunk) goggles when we go new places. It makes me feel like I’m a time traveller.

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And then onto relax in the Jardin du Luxembourg. We picked up some Orangina on the way. There were lots of chairs everywhere with flowers, trees and fountains, a nice little getaway within the city. Ladies sat chatting away and it looked like fun so we took a seat as well. A good spot to re-energize because we still had a lot of walking to get done if we wanted to see it all.

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Paris is a very walk able city, everything is close knit inside of a circle and if you are ever lost you can head for the river, La Seine. It was nice walking through tiny streets admiring architecture and color.

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Paris top tourist attractions detailed map

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Up to this point we hadn’t been to the Eiffel Tower, but we kept getting little glimpses throughout the city and it felt as romantic as it seems in the movies.

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After strolling along the streets, we picked up a baguette and some brie and made our way, very aware of how touristy and cliche we were being.

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After spending some of our afternoon at the Tour Eiffel, we headed to L’arc de Triomphe. The traffic there was unbelievable and I was glad I wasn’t driving, I think I would’ve been stuck in a never ending circle. We then walked down the Champs Elysees, but it really was not our style. Paris in general was different than our typical outdoor adventures, but this street was full of all things rich and materialistic so we headed onward. P1030012

The outside of the Louvre was probably one of my favorite places that day. It was evening so the colors became vibrant. It had such interesting architecture we spent our evening outside just admiring it all and taking in all the beauty. We didn’t even go into the museum. 2013-09-25 17.52.11

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After it started getting dark we were tired and hungry, but decided it best not to go back to our hotel because we would probably fall asleep and miss out on the nightlife, so we started walking again and found some dinner and drinks to revive us. Someone told us about a building called Montparnasse. You can get a ride up to the top and view all of Paris. It was so nice at night, uncrowded and the air was calm and cool. We held hands and looked over “La Ville-Lumière”, then laid on the roof staring up into the night, all very romantic and perfect.

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Day Two

We made the mistake of bringing a bag with us this day and could not get into any museums so we climbed up to Montmartre and the Sacré-Cœur and enjoyed street art, views of the city and more architecture.

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We didn’t actually see ALL of Paris, but got a good taste and I got to practice some of my French from school.

–A thank you to Tom for being so thoughtful and taking me on this romantic trip I had (always/never) dreamed of. x

I really miss you, but I really love not shaving

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When you’re in a long distance relationship on valentine’s day it can be confusing, and hard (as per usual). You fall somewhere on the line between the protesters who where black and the couples who make you want to vomit when you’re out trying to eat a massive burrito. You feel a sort of sadness because you are apart from your significant other on the day of chocolate hearts and cherry tarts, but you also know you can’t really complain because you are, without a doubt, in love.

1. Send little things. Any kind of snail mail is always important in long distance, it means a lot more than a text or an email and the other person has a little piece of you they can physically touch. I love getting letters from Tom because his horrible hand writing makes me laugh and he adds in fun drawings of our adventures that mean more than anything else, and I also laugh at.

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2. Go on a date. A Skype date that is, setting up an official “date” feels a lot different than typical day to day conversations. Get out of your sweatshirt you’ve worn every night for a month now, make something to eat and have a beer/champagne/tea/coffee along with your honey to make it feel like you’re out together, maybe even shave. Kidding, dont.

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(This was not a date, do not do things like science presentations on your valentines day date.)

3. Don’t buy them anything. Although things like candy and flowers are really nice, affording flights and getting groceries together is so much nicer. Instead of spending on shipping, surprise them with something while you are together and it will be more special because it was unexpected. Things only you will understand on chocolate is always a great idea, anything chocolate is a great idea, especially when it’s half off.

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4. Get a Google doc. This is a shareable document that you can write messages instantly, make plans, write a bucketlist and share anything, in another form than messaging.

Tiny Buddha compilation

Over the past few months, I’ve stumbled into the realization that I dont really love myself. Also the realization that I want to [love myself]. I have done so many awesome things in my life, I am lucky enough to have found someone to share love with and have so many big dreams, but until I learn to accept and love myself I’ll never appreciate where I’ve been, where im going or what I have. Over the past week or so I’ve read quite a few tiny buddha posts that have begun to help me through this, ones that have struck me are linked below. I’m not really sure if this is too personal of a post, but it is how I am feeling I watched a ted talk today that gave me the confidence to post my feelings. It is on the importance of vulnerability how it can help in making connections with other people along with the message that wherever you are, you are enough.

This is Brené Brown
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She does an encouraging ted talk on feeling worthy:

Now onto the tiny buddha wisdom. Remember to love yourself.

7. You can’t hate your way into loving yourself.

Telling yourself what a failure you are won’t make you any more successful. Telling yourself you’re not living up to your full potential won’t help you reach a higher potential. Telling yourself you’re worthless and unlovable won’t make you feel any more worthy or lovable.

I know it sounds almost annoyingly simple, but the only way to achieve self-love is to love yourself—regardless of who you are and where you stand and even if you know you want to change.

You are enough just as you are. And self-love will be a little bit easier every time you remind yourself of that.

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But the harder I tried, the more I realized that I didn’t fit in. Not because I was doing anything wrong but because, the truth is, “fitting in” is an illusion.

We are more than just our personalities, our likes, and dislikes.

We’re more than our gifts, talents, and skills.

We’re more than what we do, and we’re most certainly more than our bank accounts (or lack thereof).

In truth, I believe our real identity actually brings us closer together rather than further apart, and it’s less about “fitting in” and more about truly connecting with one another.

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3. Know that forgiving yourself doesn’t mean lowering your standards.

There is nothing wrong with striving to be the best you can be. However, it’s important to cut yourself some slack when you fall short of expectations.

Making a mistake or not being perfect is simply part of being human. If you didn’t do your best, it’s okay and it’s really not the end of the world. Dust yourself off, keep moving forward, and love yourself for all your imperfections!

While it’s definitely not easy at first, I promise that learning to love yourself really does pay off. The love and kindness we have for ourselves may eventually allow us to change the world!

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My new understanding of myself and others became: We are all infinitely and eternally beautiful souls, intrinsically worthy of love.

Each one of us are intrinsically worthy of love, not because we are entitled to other people giving it to us, but because we are love. We are all whole and need nothing outside of ourselves to complete us.

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I guess the point is, at any given time we are surrounded by others that have felt insecure and unloved, that worry about being worthy of belonging and can relate to what may be one of our biggest fears.

I don’t believe there is a human out there that doesn’t have this inner child in them that yearns for the reassurance that they are okay. Most of us have had at least one experience somewhere along the line that has left the lingering question of whether or not we are good enough.

I think we all carry these wounds around with us. Some of us face unthinkable things and suffer from much deeper wounds and fears than others.

I just can’t help but think if we all gave ourselves permission to not be so hard on ourselves, or to each other, the ride could be a little gentler. When we come back to that place in life where our hearts are open, we are less likely to be so critical of others and of ourselves.

4. Speak to yourself as you would speak to a friend.

As I faced challenges in my personal growth, I learned to be kind to myself. If a friend was struggling with an uncomfortable emotion, I would never criticize that friend with language like, “Why can’t you just learn to be happy all of the time?!” So I don’t speak to myself that way either.

5. Give yourself a hug.

Go on. Right now. Just do it. That felt good, didn’t it?

Self-compassion is an inside job. I’ve learned that if I am gentle with myself, the world becomes a gentler place. I invite you to experience it too.

This girl has helped me through a lot. I dedicate this post to her.

Helping each other remember to love ourselves a lot recently. This post goes out to you, Ray 

Point No Point, a day Adventure from Seattle

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1. Cormorants perched in the foreground of Mount Baker.

2. The Edmonds ferry to Kingston. A $30 round trip got me front row views. Step outside even when it’s windy and keep your eyes open, you may see a whale. I saw a gray whale breaching as we were departing back to Edmonds at 2:30, unfortunately I wasn’t able to capture it. It was a spectacular thing to see.

3. My view of the Olympics for a half hour.

4. Mount Rainier over Seattle in the far off distance.

5. A view from Point no point of the Cascade mountains from the beach. Look closer at the shore, what at first looks like waves are actually gulls.

6. Point no point lighthouse.

7. A photo I like to call “Perspective”. A close up boulder and waves with a tiny silhouette of Seattle in the background, with (if you can see the shadow) a giant Mount Rainier making us all feel so small.